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I know I dont want to jump into a serious a relationship right now, I want to get to know him first but being intimate with him makes it hard. Thanks for the update.\
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Flirt with other guys — possibly but not only. Solo 5 years for him 3 for me. It is good to read a success story as I have only received negativity for this. About 5 months in he told me he loved and I told him I love you back. I made it clear then that this in between was not for me and I north stated what I was looking for and left. New York, NY, Dating from a distance ACM: 243—252. He went back home to Florida and I stayed working at our college in Tennessee. Any advice would be awesome. He always hold my hands in the public and starts to say Im his gf in front me though. He civil there are so many reminders of me everywhere and he misses me at times. This is just something new and incredible different to be with someone who communicates well and makes me happy, and it is incredibly fresh and new still. And congrats on finding an amazing medico!.

On the other hand, he is really care about me and even determined more than my past boyfriends who are geographically close and same citizen. We will be celebrating our 7th anniversary this coming January. Tell them about the little details that attracted you to their profile or discuss your shared interests. Any advice will help.\
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**Online Dating Blog** - We met in January last year when she was on a short vacation to Singapore, we had feelings from then, but remained friends. Surprising each other with a card or something in the mail or flowers at work is a great way to keep the romance.\
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OH MY GOD WRONG!!!!! I swear I will hit the next person who tells me that long distance relationships NEVER work out…and there have been many. International Love: Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship My long distance love! Meeting up in the Faroe Islands Our Story Mike is from America. We met in Africa Tanzania actually. After having both finished the Mt Kilimanjaro climb, we met through mutual travelers at the hotel at the bottom of the mountain. Before we knew it we had spent hours talking to each other and laughing together, and found ourselves sitting beneath a starry African sky in the early AM hours. Dinner had turned into breakfast and we forced ourselves to say goodbye before heading towards separate flights. We swapped emails and phone numbers, not having any clue that our wedding in Hawaii would be less than three years later. So how did we do it? I firmly believe that you can make anything work if you want to. I wont lie — long distance for 18 months was incredibly hard, but we made it work by maintaining the following. If you find the following advice helpful, with 128 pages of advice and insight into how your long distance relationship can be a success too. More information at the end. What Makes a Long Distance Relationship Work? Communication We spoke every day. I got an amazing phone plan where I had unlimited calls to international mobiles, and we would talk for hours. Being forced to talk on the phone meant that we got to know each other a lot more intimately, and a lot more quickly than we otherwise would have. A few months in, I may have had only spent 12 hours physically with this person, but I felt like I had known him for years. Skype video chat is also amazing. Work out a time which works in both time zones and try to stick with it so you have consistency. Mike had gone online, found a florist in my area and ordered them to be delivered…from America! Megan you must have been amazing in bed! One hotel reception shift I had a pizza delivery man come in at lunch and drop off a Large Hawaiian, bottle of Fanta and chocolate lava cake; all which had been ordered and paid for by Mike online, from America!! Meeting Up Surprisingly, it does actually help when you consistently catch up with the person. Mike and I took our circumstances as a great opportunity to travel and met up with each other around the world. After meeting initially in August 2010, we went to Scotland for that Christmas and spent the New Year touring London, Amsterdam and Paris. He then came to Australia in April 2011 and spent a month with my friends and family before proposing! We spent two weeks in London in June of that year where he proposed again, with a ring this time! We got married in Hawaii on Valentines day 2013 and settled in America. During our long distance relationship, we met on average every 3 or so months. We both worked 2 jobs to pay for all of our travel; 16 hour days, in my case while at the same time studying Journalism and Law full time at university and still maintaining a pretty impressive social life. After overcoming the distance, we celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary in Antarctica. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me my relationship was doomed I would be set for life. Listen to what your friends and family have to say, sure, but thank them for their opinion and continue living your life. You know who you are! I was continually told that there was no way he was being faithful to me 15,000 kilometers away, and that I was wasting my time and being ridiculous. Watch the add on YouTube. However all of the negativity stopped of course when invitations to Hawaii were sent out and suddenly everyone had always been cheering for our relationship from the start! Over 128 pages we explore long distance love from your first contact to the moment you are together for good and find that distance is no longer an issue. More information about the e-book below. Added to cart The Ultimate How To Guide on Surviving Long Distance Love This book takes a deep look into the subject of long distance relationships and offers practical advice, as well as authentic real life experiences and observations from our own relationship. Ultimately we succeeded in closing the distance gap and were able to live our lives together. Each chapter will explore a different aspect of how a relationship can be affected by long distance and includes topics such as marriage, sex, having children, meeting family and friends, and immigration issues. Mike and I will both give our insights into our experience dealing with a long distance relationship as we take turns tackling each chapter. Let this book offer you hope that your long distance relationship can be just as successful as our own. This is a group for support and advice on being in a long distan ce relationship. Everyone is welcome — we look forward to connecting with you. I respond to all comments — Have you ever done a stint of long distance? What are your secrets? I love your story — not sure if mine will turn out the same but went on trip to meet someone overseas we met online — and we got along well… I am leaving up to him — and going about my life…. Congrats on meeting a great guy! Stay strong, let them know you respect their opinion but this is what you feel is right for you. All the best — happy travels in June! Or perhaps you could talk him through the set up over the phone. This could mean spending a year first and then opting for something more permanent, but the first step will be to figure out what your options are and go from there. Wishing you both all the best. Not just for telling your story but for your dedication and your relationship. As I write this I am sitting at the Brisbane airport waiting for my sister whom I will stay with tonight bef ore flying to Kentucky tomorrow. I am going to spend three months with the love of my life. We met 19 years ago in an msn chat room. He was in the Navy back then and we had five glorious days together when his ship came to Western Australia where I was living at the time. We tried to keep our relationship going but we both had young children at the time so we decided we would try to move on without the other. It killed me to hear him so unhappy and depressed but I believe we are friends first and I supported him through his grief until we had a quarrel and we stopped talking. Imagine my surprise when in February this year he called me out of the blue!! We average around four hours talking each day and we talk about everything and anything! We believe that God created everybody a perfect partner and we are each others! So, at 50 and 52 years of age we are beginning the long journey with immigration etc. I love you with all of my heart baby and I am honored to be in your life. I will work everyday of my life to make you as happy as you make me. You gotta use that and prove them wrong. I am in a long distance relationship Canada-USA mind you we try to see eachother every month or so and have been for a year. My boyfriend does the cutest things. It can and does work. That was the one great thing about our relationship — even though we were so far apart, we both had super busy work schedules and had our own projects to focus on while we were apart. I had to leave for America two weeks later. He proposed on thanksgiving. I came back to America where people have nothing but negative things to say. To make you want to give up on even trying. Hard times come and go. We have seen each other for a total of three months. If you add up all the times we have traveled to see each other. Never let anyone change your mind. Love is always worth taking a chance. I absolutely love your attitude and wish there were more people like you in the world! I always used to tell those who made negative comments that I probably knew this person more than they knew their own partner — because the distance meant we were forced to get to know each other and not base our relationship on the physical. To last we had to be able to maintain an actual conversation…every night!! Your story gives me hope at a time when i seem to not have much. My partner moved to Ireland after a farm was left to him by a deceased relative and i just returned from my second holiday there. We were both living in Australia when we met. You only have to want to go through this. I met my Polish girlfriend online and we just started to talk… Then I realized I fell in love! And i think i can relate to its quiet well. I am from Australia and am currently dating a guy from America. Its just second nature now. If gave me some hope which I need and encouragement. I have plans to go see him when I graduate! For 3 months then I have to come back to work, but who knows right? I think you are right when you say if you want it you have to work for it. Every time we skype it reminds me how much I like him. I wish he was here. I think I am more of the romantic one. He is caring but less romantic. I wish for a bit more romance but I think it comes more naturally for some people.. So I will just have to try to plant ideas for him :p. But congratulations on your marriage! Hopefully one day I can write a similar happy fate to my story! Yes, totally takes commitment and a hard haul, though as you said yourself, you find it getting easier after a while, and talking via Skype or on the phone becomes your new normal, and second nature. I am actually truly thankful for our long distance relationship as our circumstances really made us forced to communicate with each other and all we could do was talk. So I really do believe that if you have found the right person you can overcome anything, including being apart and maintaining your relationship long distance. I agree completely with not listening to negative comments. We spent a few months doing the long distance relationship from California to Seoul and at times it was tough, but honestly it made our relationship stronger. Long story short, I quit my job and was on a plane to Korea after only 4 months and now we are traveling together. Thanks Megan — so glad to hear your love story worked out also! And the distance absolutely makes you stronger. So glad to hear another happy story! We maintained contact since then and recently started dating. It is a long distance and the time difference between our places is an hour. He usually texts me before leaving to work and sometimes during his breaks and I do the same. And we also have a language barrier which makes communication even more difficult. Any advice on how I can make things a little easier? My advice there would be to perhaps try and schedule times to talk — as in figure out a time every few days or once a week which works for both of you and block it out in each of your calendars, just as you would for a date. It might just work out. I am also in an international long distance relationship as we met in Florida when he was here for some work. We were together for 8 months before he went back to the western hemisphere to work in the Mediterranean. We have been doing the long distance portion for about 10 months. You completely nailed it on the negativity portion. Friends and family often question if he is the right one for me. Your blog was definitely something I needed to read! I met this guy on a two-week study abroad program in China, who I am absolutely head over heels for. We got so incredibly close and just infatuated that all our friends on the trip and abroad claimed it was the beginning of our love story and we were going to get married one day. Coming home and back to reality and talking to my friends about it, the reality of that happening seems hard, but I really want to make it work. Hi Tatiana — so psyched to hear youve met someone amazing — congrats! Keep up the texting, and for now if it all seems like too much and hard to fathom, just start out by taking it day by day. After that try and plan to take a trip somewhere together — Mike and I used our distance as an opportunity to meet up in the middle and travel together for 2 weeks every few months. This also gave us something to look forward to before he made the first move and spent 12 months in Aus. I actually met my guy while I was on a cruise. We stopped over on an island and went shopping and he was working at a booth selling things. I was hot and frustrated waiting on the shuttle driver to come back and get us to take us back to the ship and he started talking to me. I was really not interested but just to pass time I said what the heck. Well to make a long story short. Well I got his information but took it down wrong. We chatted then we talked and the rest is history. I go over and see him often. His family loves me and I them. So glad to hear your story Angel! He came to Brazil in 2013 to study and look for a job, he stayed 3 months the maximum period with the tourist visa but since he had then recently graduated without professional experience he had no luck and had to go back to Paris. Firstly, the biggest thing is to tune out the negativity as much as you possibly can. The reality is that one of you will eventually have to make the sacrifice and the move, though the other reality is that it has to be right for you both as well. We both live in Florida in the U. S and I just got accepted to my dream art college in Portland, Oregon.. The problem is we can only communicate and no chance of visiting each other. PLane tickets are a fortune and I can only pay for one in-between semesters. Do you think we could really make it work? I met Mike with 2 years left of my college degree in Australia, our deal was that I was going to graduate and then I would move with him to the USA. I think that giving up an education at one of the best schools, and the potential at a career path which you would love is something you may potentially regret down the line. And the absence really does make the time you do have together every months that much sweeter. Wishing you both all the best. After talking for 7 hours straight I discovered that we are the same with ethnicity Vietnamese and we are both pre med students and same age 20. After 5 months of talking we decided to meet In Thailand, her parents would of no way approved of this so we had to plan everything secretly. So for two weeks we are spending time traveling together across Thailand. There were times within the trip where she had to leave my side to do the volunteer work at school to work with disable children. So this is me checking in with one week left with her. The first night meeting her I was absolutely in love with this Individual and as each day comes I begin to fall harder for her. Hi Khoi, thanks for reaching out — and congrats on having met someone truly amazing; really does sound like the stars aligned!! I think that there are definitely negative connotations with having met in a chat room online, so my first piece of advice to you both would be to tell your friends and family you met while in Thailand. Even though Mike and I met in person, the rumors that flew through my extended family was that I was heading off a few months later to meet a guy I met online, and the judgement was ridiculous. So that would be tip one. Your geographical situation is exactly the same as Mike and Mine, with me being from Aus and him being from the US. You could even look into the possibility of a 12 month student exchange program for one of you if that would work. I think the best thing to do is to be very open and honest, tell her how you feel, and that you 100% want to make it work. Communication is the biggest key. Because there WILL be a next time. She finishes her schooling next year and starts her medicine degree year after that. I however have two years left before starting my med degree. Thanks again for responding! For a bit after that she will come to Australia with me for an Aussie Christmas and New Years, will take her to Great Barrier Reef because she loves diving and wildlife and then after that mid 2016 I will be traveling to the states again for two months which she will be done studying and taking a gap year which we will travel around the world and do volunteering in Vietnam and travel as we are both Vietnamese and she has never been. I live in Puerto Rico and i am in a long distance relationship with someone from China. The problem is maybe it will take some time to finally meet each other. Sometimes i just feel i am losing the motivation to continue with the relationship and ignoring the possibility to find my love here. I feel maybe if we share more about each other we can keep this feeling alive. I recently found that i am a little insecure because of his culture women stereotypes. I also feel he will change his mind about me in any moment because of his parents pressure to marry a chinese girl or maybe because of differences in habits or lack of conversation topics. Sometimes i feel is not healthy and realistic to say we love each other without having met before. I wish you happiness to you and your husband! I am so happy you found each other. I know everything is possible in this world no matter what people says. Hi Roxana, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. Im in LDR too, we have been talking for almost a year. We talked about meeting but neither of us are travelers like you and mike lol. He tells me we ll make it work but like you said Visas are pain and Im kind busy with studies. Wish you happy marriage! I think you do need to meet physically to really, truly know though. Just based on the ease of Visas I would have it a guess that it would be easier for you to travel to meet him there, though you could consider both taking a vacation and meeting somewhere half way instead of one person visiting the other in their hometown — Mike and I first met up in Scotland after we started dating, and we actually both booked onto a group tour of the country. We meet each other twice or three times a year the most. I have a good career and he has a business, it seems that this thing make us difficult who wants to sacrifice. I hope our ending story can be like your story with Mike. I think the biggest thing which kept Mike and I going was that we had planned out what we wanted to happen and who was going to move etc, so even though it was something like a two year plan, we still had something which we were working towards and I think this really helped. In the end it does come down to sacrifice. And one of you is going to have to make that sacrifice if you want to be together in the same spot. For instance I left my career in law behind in Australia when I moved to the States, and when I got there I had 3 months before my work visa came through. Not knowing how the hell to spend my time alone while Mike was out working to pay the bills, I started working on a new online project and created this blog. Now the blog is my career and we travel around the world from it. Wishing you both all the best! Anyway reading your story makes me more positive about the future, your advice encourage me to be more optimist. Thank you so much megan. By the way , do u have any children yet? Being apart really does suck, but if you keep up the communication, and maintain a determination to make it work from both sides then anything is possible, and it makes the time you do spend together even more special. I guess with myself being Cabin Crew its easier for me than most to see him more often than I would otherwise be able to. Particularly the part about the negativity. My story is different and it is bizarre in fact. I met the love of my life when I was 13. By the time they broke up a couple of weeks, we were just kids I was besotted with him and he felt the same. Shortly after our first date, his mother moved them away and stuck him in boarding school. Hours of texting and phonecalls later, he had become my best friend. Much of the reason I love him to this day is that having only those methods of communication meant we left all pretences behind. Life has taken us down many roads. I moved to the otherside of the world. His life has been stunted by being stuck in a country ravaged by the gfc, meanwhile I have a great career. And yet we talk. We have endless conversation. We have no boundaries. We love each other. I go home for Xmas in 79 days and I will see him for the first time since 2008. I alternate between overwhelming excitement and fear. The fear is, as fear always is, the dominant emotion. And, most terrifying of all, what if it is perfect and I have to get back on a plane after 3 weeks of perfection and leave him to return to life on the otherside of the planet? Any advice on handling the doubts and facing the unknown? The biggest piece of advice I would give is to not overthink it or try and force anything. Too many people try to control the unknown which just never works out. I find solace in your words. My story is a bit more complex as it involves the app Tinder, which a lot of people think is just an app for people that want to hook up. While on vacation in Dubai I turned on the app and began swiping. I wanted to enjoy sightseeing and nothing more. When I got back home in the U. I turned on the tinder app again and a guy that is from Australia but lives in Dubai had sent me messages. We started chatting and I discovered that he is just truly what I have been looking for. He has all the qualities that I have not been able to find in anyone else here where I live. I am smitten with him…. A week into chatting with him he sent me red roses and a box of chocolate for my birthday. I know he too is smitten with me because he tells me all the time. He is planning to come see me soon. This makes me a bit nervous because we have only been chatting and sending voice notes for 11 days. Is it too soon for him to come see me? Before we make plans for him to come see me I would like to get to know him for a bit longer via whatsapp and facetime. I really do feel though, as if he could be the one for me. He has a successful career in Dubai. All these questions make me anxious. What is your advice? Hi Jan, thanks for reaching out — and congrats on the possible romance!! If it starts to get serious THEN you can worry about making a plan, and who knows, by then he could have organized a transfer with work or you could have finished your study. Im currently in a LDR with my girlfriend being on the cruise liners. Im situated in South Africa and she is currently in the US region. Communication is really hard but we try and make it work. We have been together nearly 3yrs now and determined to make this work. The negativity from other people does take a toll on your relationship but it is your mindset that makes the difference. I got some new motivation from this story and really glad for the 2 of you that made it work no matter the distance. We have been talking about tying the knot officially after she is back in Feb 2016 so we both just need to stay committed and believe in each other and make compromises for each other. Anyone else been in this situation that can give some great advice for gifts or romantic ideas?? Congrats on possibly tying the knot!! I met my girl for one week in Borneo…. It was instant connection. We spent the weekend together and it was fabulous. He knows that during the week I can devote too much time to him because I work in corporate but he meets me for lunch and takes me to dinner. He is just the greatest man I have ever met. Treats me like a princess and makes me feel safe. We are completely smitten with each other. Maybe this LDR can work. I have hope Megan. I entered on a fiance visa and then had 90 days to get married and then after being married I believe it was 90 days to then file paperwork applying for a change of status for permanent residency and my green card. I was then allowed to stay in the States until my green card was granted and that took about 10 months. I have been in an on and off again relationship with a guy that I met online. The only reason that it has been on and off is because I will start doubting it and start feeling like there is no way that we will ever meet. I have done tons of research online and found that it is extremely hard for Africans to obtain a visa to visit the US. I have never traveled so far before and cant think of anyone that will go with me. I am also very afraid of the very long flight so I just dont know what to do. He has become my best friend. If we didnt have the connection that we have I would not even consider having a relationship with him. He truly understands me and is a great person. We skype all the time and I really feel close to him when we do. Any advice would really be helpful. And if that means organization a vacation to Africa, then it sounds like a perfect excuse for a holiday! When Mike and I met for the second time we met each other in Scotland and had booked onto a group tour of the Scottish Isles. That way I figured we were in a group setting where there was less pressure on us being 1 on 1, and worst case scenario there were other people to lean on should we have not worked out. I live in oz and my soulmate lives in London. I was already unhappy in my marriage and chose to travel back and forth to the U. Every few months to help in the care of my dad. I guess it was a good escape from my unhappiness in Australia. It came at a time when my kids were all pretty independent and out of the house a lot and I had to face the fact that I was no longer in love with my husband. I met this amazing man in London and from day 1 we connected. We both felt such a strong connection physically, emotionally and definitely spiritually. He was amazing with my dad and was such a support to me. So for the last three years we have been together for about a month at a time then two or three months apart. However, now my father has gone into care and I have returned to Australia to work and live. He would love to live here and plans to visit in January, then we will meet again in March asia! I stay up until 2am to FaceTime him after work 7hour time difference is a killer and then I usually try to be free at 2pm oz time to FaceTime him when he wakes up. We have kept this up continuously but I miss his physical touch every day. We also have the visa issue, as he would love to live in Australia but would be unable to work or live permanently. I would marry him tomorrow but I still have my kids to think about. Did you ever suffer with anxiety? I often fear that something will happen to him before we get our chance to be together. I suppose this is because I am older and fear that I may not have this chance again. I think that if your kids are now independent, yes, while you have to consider how they feel, really your biggest priority should be your own happiness. If you approach the situation right and give them space and time they will come to accept it eventually, and will hopefully realize that your happiness counts too. If marriage is a little further out because of your kids, could you potentially look at finding an employer to sponsor him here in Australia? Check out for more info and this post here also seems to have some decent tips: The biggest thing is holding onto the belief that it will work out in the end, and cherishing the phone conversations and the time that you do get to spend together while you have it now. He is an American. So our situation is pretty similar to yours. So after about 3 months. He will come to Korea. It was so horrible. But he was busy. I had to wait though I hate waiting. Anyway we still love each other. But if you two are meant to be, you guys can overcome anything hard. The most important things are trust and positive thinking. If you start thinking of your relationship negatively, you can never keep it well. So think of your relationship positively in any situation. And if you love her truly, you should trust her. If you keep the two things, your love will work well! Hope you can meet her as soon as possible. Mike and I were in a very similar situation being in Australia and the United States, I would be going to sleep just as his day would start, and when I would wake up the sun would be setting for him. But same kind of a deal, I called him every night after I got home from work, and often this was only for an hour or so. It has been hard as hell, especially this last month when we almost broke up. And good luck to everyone! Some of the times we were caught in limbo over our visa situation were some of the worst days! Though there is always an end in sight, and the biggest thing that I learnt was to accept the things which were out of my control, and focus on the relationship at the stage it was at. Easier said than done!! If that makes sense. I did travel to Australia to spend a holiday with him but he has yet to come to me also. Best of luck to you! Last time I posted was roughly 4 months ago! I met my girlfriend on Omegle and we decided to meet up in Thailand, It turned out to be amazing and so from there I am actually with her again now, In THE US, I have met her family and spent a month here so far! After talking for 7 hours straight I discovered that we are the same with ethnicity Vietnamese and we are both pre med students and same age 20. After 5 months of talking we decided to meet In Thailand, her parents would of no way approved of this so we had to plan everything secretly. So for two weeks we are spending time traveling together across Thailand. There were times within the trip where she had to leave my side to do the volunteer work at school to work with disable children. So this is me checking in with one week left with her. The first night meeting her I was absolutely in love with this Individual and as each day comes I begin to fall harder for her. That was the recap of out story, Anyways I am not in America with her and I have met her family parents and grand parents Infact we went on a holiday to New York all together. Its been a wonderful time and she is coming back to Australia with me to meet my family in a week! But a weird question roams in my mind that how would i knw the person without meeting him.. My partner and I have been together for a year after meeting in Vermont. I live in Rhode Island and he lives in Florida. I think the biggest thing is going to be keeping your lines of communication open, and spending as much time with each other as you possibly can — your experiences over the next few years really start to shape the adult you become, so if you can share some of those experiences together through travel, I think this will help with not growing apart. Just over a year in and just got engaged a couple months ago. Congratulations to you both! And congratulations on your engagement! Are you planning on coming here to Aus or is he planning on joining you in the US? We did the visa process as me heading to the States on a Fiance Visa, getting married there and then applying for a green card change of residency. We will be celebrating our 7th anniversary this coming January. After 7 years we are still overwhelmed by how good this is for both of us. Congratulations MG on 7 years! I feel like the fact that long distanced forced us to communicate and get to know each other on a much more intimate level than we would have had the opportunity to if we were located in the same city. Wishing you both the best of luck. I went back to visit for New Years Eve week. It has been the most amazing experience and we are both deeply in love. So in love that now we are getting married February 7th. He is coming to the US and we are eloping in Vegas. Then at the end of February I am going to Dubai for 4 months and do school full time during the spring semester. Unfortunately I have to be back in the US to sort out my US Citizenship. I am currently a resident alien and can only be outside of the US no more than 6 months per year. But I have already filed my application for citizenship and have done my biometrics and just waiting for my citizenship interview date. In a short period of time we have taken all the steps that will enable us to be together. I love my soon to be husband so much because he makes me laugh, accepts me for who I am and takes care of me like no one ever has. I am going to marry my soulmate. I am hopeful that my US citizenship will be approved so I can be with my love without restrictions. But if not, I will spend at least 6 months out of the year with him. Thanks Megan for such a wonderful blog. Hi Jan, massive congrats!! Thanks for updating us on your LDR, such an amazing thing to have found your soul mate! Sounds like you have everything pretty well planned out and under control. Wishing you all the best in your life together, and all the best for the wedding. We stayed in Hotel 32 while in Vegas which is an exclusive two floors at the top of the Monte Carlo. He recently came for a holiday and has just left and I miss him so so much :' We met whilst I was on exchange at his University at the beginning of last year so we got to spend a good half year together before half a year of separation. It sucks so much not having a solid date to look forward to before seeing him again :' Hi Alice, congrats on finding your guy!! Best thing you can do at this point though is to enjoy getting to know each other more intimately over Skype, video chat, Facetime etc. As ridiculously hard as it is being apart, I found that being forced to communicate over the phone at the start made us stronger because communication had to be the foundation of our relationship, and we got to know each other much better than I feel we would have if we were to have been dating normally. I try and focus on those kind of positives and not let myself get weighed down too much in the negative feelings of missing their physical touch. Since a working visa allows me to stay for a year, each year getting it renewed and so on. Any tips at this point helps me immensely. Especially with my anxiety, lol. It really does inspire and calm many people here, having something relatable and to look up to. Hi there, although I am older than you, my mother was really hesitant about my long distance relationship. I went to visit my boyfriend 2 times and each time I came back to the U. In the end family and friends want us to be happy. Take a couple of trips to see him. Meet him halfway in another country. I think that would give you and your family reassurance that moving there permanently is a good idea. Feel free to reach out with any questions or comments you may have in the future. Mike and I managed to pull off a happy ending — we have been married now since 2013 and traveling full time together, now settled in Australia. We both really like each other and want to get to know each other more. Your story has given me confidence about the possibility of having a successful international relationship. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Warmest Regard, Janera Hi Janera Thanks for your comment — and congrats on finding someone you click with! Get to know each other more, and enjoy your conversations. Meet up when you can and let your relationship unfold. We finally met face to face in the UK last month where we spent a wonderful week together. I actually came here looking for help with US immigration as I will be moving there after we both visit each others families later this year. Possibly has something to do with the remoteness of WA and the expectation that everyone travels as everywhere is a long way away! Anyway congratulations on your love, marriage and great website. Hi Megan i really love reading ur love story and it makes me cry bcz i was in a long distance relationship hes american and im filipina we met in korea and i was back in the philippi es and we see each for almost 5 years a d 5 months now but soon hes coming here in the philippimes, we always talks tru a phone a d sending emails everyday i just wanna ask you about what can you say about he say about tru txt to me recently and it goes like this Babe maybe you and i will have are lade of good voyage thats what i wanted to do when i come to the phillipines that would be nice to pour our love with each other and to god. Hi, im having problems with my family about my long distance relationship. Hi Harrison, thanks for reaching out — and congrats on finding someone you love! While negativity from your closest circles of family and friends sucks been there, totally feel you! The thing which is most important to making this work is your beliefs, and hers. Enjoy getting to know each other, have phone conversations, video chats, send letters etc etc. My name is kristen and I live in guyana. I am a 25 year old journalist. Almost one month ago I met a guy named Kevin from Canada who was vacationing in my country. I would sit down and make a list of the different options which you could make work, ie meeting up in different locations, you getting a visa for Canada, him coming to you etc, and then propose each of those options in your phone call depending on what he says he wants. Hope it all works out! We have been together for 8 months and the last time we met was before Christmas. We have been apart for almost 3 moths. We still dont know when we will see each other again. Of course, we text every day and talk on the Skype sometimes. Both of us really hope it will work out. When it comes to long distance, do you think that either one has to come to compromise in the end? Yes, long distance is definitely hard. When it comes down to it in the end, one of you will have to ultimately make the decision to move. That may not have to be for a year, or two, but to actually be together one of you will have to be willing to start a new life in a new country. And likewise for Mike 3 years later moving to Australia. She is from Scotland and I the states. She is very new to the whole idea to long distance as whole and I am not. Is there any advice you have for me to help? I loved your article! Hi Cae Thanks for reaching out — sorry to hear you both recently had an argument. We would have fights about doubts when we would go for long periods of time without talking, ie when I was on a trip or traveling somewhere. Hope that helps some. I met this guy in January on dating site while he was waiting for e-visa in Singapore to visit my country. Our country is one of his planning countries during Asia tour for 3 months. But after 2 or 3 times we met, we planned to travel to beach for few days. Before we travel together, he went to other city for a week and we kept texting and planning to visit the beach together. It was really amazing chemistry that we had which he also said often that we have lot of chemistry. We had very great time in bed. His excuse is it is not fair for both of us to tie with relationship, so that I can date with others. He seriously wanted me to visit US and asked to get visa since he left from our country. On the other hand, he is really care about me and even determined more than my past boyfriends who are geographically close and same citizen. So, negative sense always came into my mind that this guy will never commit me and is it right decision to visit him!! Hoping to get your positive ideas and some inspirational words. Love, Ei Hi Ei, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. My advice would be to go to America and spend time with him, and see what happens after that. Go and have fun, and when you spend time with him there, if your chemistry is still there, then start having conversations about how to make a relationship work. How long are you moving for? If it is only for a year, or only to study for a few years where you could return home and see each other on holidays, a long distance relationship can definitely work if you both want it to. I think it really comes down to convincing her that a long distance relationship can be done, and that you want to do it to stay together. Me and my boyfriend have been doing long distance for 1 and a half year now. We broke up twice but we got back together again. We have about 10 more month to go before we can live in the same city again. I really hope we can make it through. And thankyou for sharing your experience. You are absolutely right -you cannot let the frustration, impatience and sadness win. M just hoping for the best for us. Hi Shruti, thankyou for sharing your story. We would set aside specific times each day that we knew we would call, so it made it easier to get into a routine. My boyfriend broke up with me after a three year relationship, very out of the blue. In a bid to retain some normality to my life, I decided to go on a overseas trip around Bali with my girlfriends. We spent five days together. He is amazing, and we get along really well, and have similar interests. We even talked about meeting up again. Thus, we exchanged phone numbers and talked on Skype while he continued to travel around Bali and I went back home to Australia. My feelings for him have grown so much more since being back, and we talk on Skype almost every night for 2 hours easy. He was in a bad state mentally when we broke up, and is much better now. He hates how he made me feel, and now wants to see the world with me. So long story sorry, very long short, I need to book flights to decide whether to go over to Norway and see him again, and risk it not working out at all. OR stay in Australia with my ex who is determined to make it work. I have a week to think about this…. Hi Liz, thanks for reaching out. Take location completely out of the equation and make your decision based on the merit of the guys. My biggest advice would be to not settle for ordinary. Getting back with your ex is definitely the easy path. But sometimes the harder path reaps far greater rewards. But if this other guy truly is amazing then you need to take the risk. So I think you owe it to yourself to explore where this could go. If the guy is worth it, and you do want a relationship with him, I would aim to go long distance — though I would have a discussion and make it clear that you were a bit hurt by not having known that he was taking off. Perhaps he thought that it would be easier that way, or perhaps he was just being really inconsiderate. I would have a discussion with him to find out which it was, and then make a decision about continuing with the relationship based on how well your convo goes. I dont know what to do,my boyfriend parents are not ready for our marriage,they told him if you want to marry her you can go ahead but after dat never ever try to contact us,i dont want just because of me his parents will stop talkimg to him. Hi Shruti, thanks for reaching out. Sorry to hear about your situation. Whether or not he stays with you or listens to his parents is a decision that he needs to make. So talk to each other and communicate, but let him make the decision and give him as much time as he needs to make it. I have just returned from 3 months abroad in England and there I have met my love. Many of my friends have been negative about it. What can I do to make them understand? Hi Jessica, congrats on meeting your guy! The biggest advice I can give you for dealing with the negativity from family and friends is to make a vow not to let it affect you. And because they care about you. The best thing you can do is to tell them that you love them for looking out for you, but that you know this is the right thing for you. I found that after a lot of my friends actually met Mike when he came and visited, the negativity died down a lot. Because they could see us together and put a face to him. We chat together for the first time and we got along great after a wile,I realized we had a lot in common together and later on we were best friends. She is from Cameroon and I am from America. Our long distance relationship is hard but we are praying for us to meet in person and to break the distance between us and be together fervor despite any negativity from friends and family because we have to keep each other in secret until the time comes. We both love each other very much and we are meant to be together happily married. I am a college student studying for my degree and she is a primary schoolteacher, I am 30 years old and she is 28 years old. I am planning to finish school by the end of the year and can get a good job and save money to travel to be with her. She is my everything and we never gave up on each other because we have each other in our hearts and we believe in God to bring us closer Hi Anthony! Knowing that there is a realistic scenario where you will both be together in the near future is what you can hold onto to get you through the tough days. Negitivty from family and friends will come. I actually met my ex husband online and we were together for 12 years. Now, 4 years post-separation, and after dating a few douchebags I met conventionally here, I have finally met an amazing man online. I am in Australia and he is 14,000 miles away in Sth America. We have such similar ideals on love and life and we are in love. We have such a profound and beautiful connection, emotionally and spiritually. Hi Karina, thanks for sharing your story — it sounds like you both have a wonderful connection!! Hold onto it and do everything in your power to make it work. We send each other gifts all the time to surprise one another and other brings such a smile. I try to make sure she gets flowers every month, at least. We were recently able to spend a whoever week together and it was so ebjoyable, but the desire to be together was renewed before I even touched down here in the US. Communication is so very important. It could potentially prevent me from sponsoring her. As you say, if you want it to be bad enough then chances are you can make it happen. You have to chase your dreams instead of letting your fears chase you! I love her so very much and I gotta believe that love will find a way. Thanks again for sharing! Darrin Hi Darrin Thanks for sharing your story, congrats on having found the woman of your dreams! It sounds like you guys are dealing with along distance pretty well, being able to see each other often, and staying on top of communicating via Skype and email etc. So perhaps if the States proves to be a big obstacle straight up, you could consider options like basing yourself in Indonesia for 3 years at which stage you could both consider lodging the paperwork to move back to the States. Wishing you all the best. Life in a new country is a huge adventure. This sounds silly but I think I falling for this guy for spain. So if this is something that you think you would regret not having explored, talk to him about it. See if he feels the same way and would want to make it work with you. I just want to know that my bf n I stay very far from each other n w hardly communicate on cell phone. Rarely it is possible fr him to cme n meet me. So I want to know ur option that I want him but I dnt know how to make him love me,mis me marry me.. When it comes down to it, communication is one of the biggest things which keeps a long distance relationship strong. One way or another, you need to find a way to communicate regularly, as this is the foundation that is needed to make a relationship last long distance. Wishing you both all the best. I live in England by the way. We txt and talk everyday and also skype as much as we can. This story gives me hope that one day we can be together. Thank you X This is incredible. I am in a long distance relationship myself. We met in Tennessee during which I had participated in an exchange program. We dated for a month and then we decidrd to call it off when I was about to leave because we were both skeptical about long distance relationships. However when I arrived home we agreed to try it because we both know how we still love each other. But I am hoping for the best. Thank you for this amazing story, Megan! Hi Viena, thanks for sharing your story. I met a guy some 1 month back. We have been dating since then. We were really very much happy with each other. We both are working but all of a sudden he got to know that he needs to move to the US for his job for an year or so. He was really sad after he got to know this. I wasnot able to control my emotions and have cried before him. He said that he wants to continue. He will be leaving for US this week but has already left my place and has gone to meet his parents. He calls me everyday but doesnot talk to me properly as in i feel like something is bothering him. He doesnot reply anything properly. But makes a point to call. He and me both have very bad experience of LDR from our past relationships. I am very scared right now. I am not able to understand whether he really wants to continue or calls me just because he knows i would be very sad if he doesnot. I had never seen him cry but we both cried in the airport when he was leaving me and going. But i have become very negative because he doesnt talk properly. Hi Taanie Thanks for sharing your story — sorry to hear you are hurting right now. Wishing you all the best. September , November, December , February will be the times when we exchange eachother first im going there, then she s coming , im going, she s coming back. In the grand scheme of things, 365 days will fly by. Please do let em know your thoughts. My email address is Thanks so much Amazing story! I know we will make it work, but I totally freak out at the thought of it not working. Thanks, J Thanks Jay! In the grand scheme of things, 365 days will fly by. All I can do is to have a discussing with her regarding our relationship in order for us to know where our relationship is heading to in the near future Hi Anthony — thanks for keeping us all updated on your situation. Hopefully that open communication and reassurance from you will be enough to keep her encouraged in spite of the pressure from family at home. Do you have any words of wisdom about the visa process and how you guys made it work? He definitely could look at applying for jobs before hand and having a business sponsor him to come. You generally have to have a very highly qualified skill set for that though. My suggestion if he can make it work would be to try and get an online business running, or find a job in Australia which would allow him to work remotely online. We were very lucky in that when Mike came to live in Australia for a year, he got the Aus work and travel visa which is available for 12 months to those under 30. He just left today after he visit me for 3 weeks. Always had a great times when my bf visit me. Overall our relatiosnhip is going very well he is like my bestfriend we match we have same levels in many pages. Love Amanda Hi Amanda, thanks for sharing your story and reaching out. He just might not be ready for that big commitment yet. My situation is similar but not the travel part. My biggest fear is us being a biracial couple, which is new to him and his family. Thanks for your story, I really appreciate it. Hi Kendi, thanks for sharing your story — congrats on finding a great guy! Just came bk from viting home town in italy and met friend of my cousin……the rest is history…. So am sitting here at 11pm friday nt thinking at the age of 50……what the hell have i got into! You have given me hope. I live in africa with withs at uni in aus…no reason to be here anymore…im happy to move nxt yr to italy, easier as he is a lawyer and established there…. But the doubts, the does he feel still what he did, does he still want me as much…. He isnt the most tech friendly.. Says something,,,but not on skype everyday not msg everyday more like second day etc. I still will send email about what going on with work and life and what am doing…. So the doubts set in…but reading this has made me feel so positive. I cant thank you enough and wish you both the most incredible adventures ahead in yr lives,. Hi for me too! I am for Greece. Things between us are great. The sad story is that he is in Saudi Arabia and now he is in final year of phd,and the things are reaally stressfull and tight,i do not know how to support him ,we talk every day of course,we make skype calls,but he is complaining me about the situation,and how bad he wanted me to be with him,in the same place i cant go to saudi arabia,only if we are married,and now with the phd going on its not a good timing to do it. I found that when I was away from Mike, having something to look forward to really did help. Hi,my name is Kanna and i am from Australia as well. I have been in a relationship for a last 4 months now and after a lot of searching i found my princess and the catch here is she is in India and we have a Five hour time difference. We both are from two different professions. I am a software engineer and she is a journalist, by the time i am done with work she would be starting her work and by the time she finishes up its late here. Still i try to stay up as late as possible to talk to her but i am not able to do it everyday. This leads to a lot communication problems which in-turn leads to frustration and fights. I know she loves me a lot but somehow we are having a problem in regards to communication and finding time for each other. Could you please suggest me a way on how shall i handle this situation with your experience. Thank You Hi Kanna, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. So glad we could provide you with some encouragement and hope! And suggest she do the same. I hope our story become like what you have.. Actually were still 7months in dating in Social Media and his Planning to Visit me here in my City this coming April or May. I loved reading this story, one of the many with a happy ending. Ofcourse I tried looking up information on how to make it work, but I quickly noticed that all the post are about either happy endings or unhappy endings, but nothing about the journey itself. So, I started telling the story as we are experiencing now. Might give another insight to others about how a long distance relationship affects the people that are currently still in the process of building a future together. So for anyone that is interested in reading my stuff I invite you to do so. It an be found at Thanks for showing me once more that with hard work and dedication how hard that may be at times we might be able to make it work in the end. Hi Mert, yes, we were very fortunate to be in a position where we could travel to see each other. Can you think about different options like meeting somewhere in Europe which is cheap enough for both of you during semester breaks? Or both of you finding the same exchange at a European school? Only temporary solutions, and a little outside of the box, but even if you brainstorm a list of crazy ways you could see each other, maybe one of them could work out. What makes it even worse is how difficult Greece is in regards to getting residency. Sorry to be a downer on such an otherwise positive thread, but this is absolutely killing me and no one really understands. It sucks that there are so many difficult obstacles in your way like the financial crisis and Greek visas. I wish you both all the best, and hope you have a wonderful time in Greece. I met my ex during my US business trip last year. We spent almost 4 months together. I met his family and I thought things were getting serious. In our last month together though before I headed back to my home country Philippines , he was cutting visits and I felt that he was being distant. Once a year visit is never an issue on me because I have the money and visa and I know he has the means to visit me too. I agree when you said that you can make anything work if you want to. Someday, I know someone will be able to keep up with me. I fear that he might be an online player and that he might have found a new online girlfriend to play With. Hi Suzy, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. Above all, you need to listen to your gut instinct. Here is my story: I am an older man divorced twice. I really like being married, so right after our divorce i tried online dating,in Canada, where i lived. It was terrible, I swear some of the gals just wanted a dinner with wine. I went to a Chinese dating site, and the replies were amazing. Many women truly wanted to find a good man to share a happy life. I chose the one that had me spellbound from the start. We emailed for two months, and exchanged photos. Then i went to China and as soon as i saw her in real life i new i wanted to marry her. She felt the same. Now here is the thing, three days later we married. I have been back to visit her three more times, each time like a honeymoon. We travel or just stay together and bond. She is my true love, and i wish i could of had her for my first wife. We are waiting on Immigration to issue her a visa, and everyday we talk on QQ. It can work, we keep thinking of the time soon when we can be forever together. We are very compatible. Hi Warren, thanks for sharing your story. Congrats on meeting an amazing woman! Enjoy those continual honeymoons!!! And so refreshing to hear such positivity towards LDRs. Like lots of other people in the comments, you have given me some hope for my own situation. We are already very attached to each other and are getting closer and closer by the day. This will keep me going. I have recently returned home from a holiday in the states where I met the most amazing girl. We only had one night together but talked throughout the rest of my trip. I decided to change my travel plans to see her once more before returning to Australia to see if there was actually anything there. Those two days were just perfect. We are now in the process of figuring how to make this work, lots of phone calls and Skype! It gives me tremendous hope that you guys pursued things even after only a short amount of time together. I hope that one day I can look back at this time with her by my side in the same country!! Now off to hunt for your post on visas boy they make it hard! All the best x Hi Ellee, thanks for sharing your story, and congrats on meeting such an amazing girl! Yes, Mike and I met and only spent a night together before having to leave — it was a very short amount of time. I found that our long distance forced us to get to know each other more intimately than we would have had we been dating in the same location. So while LDR is hard as hell, I do appreciate having been in this situation for that, as I believe it forged a really strong connection and relationship between us. May God bless you and your family. SO my situation is this, I have a girl, we are talking in distance and we like each other so much, but my only concern is, my financial situation is not good enough I mean i have a debt accumulated, cuz i had to help my sick sister back home and still paying and paying…I live in Canada and she is in US, but to travel i need a bank statement… i mean i am full time worker and i know i can plan the trip and stuff, but the bank statement is gonna kill me i guess.. That could be your travel fund to pay for the trip. We have a post on tips for traveling in debt here if it helps: Otherwise if all else fails perhaps she could visit you in Canada first. He was only planning on staying a day in Xela, but after we met at salsa class he stayed the whole time I was there. Like you guys we talk everyday, every morning he sends me a good morning gorgeous text and every night I send him a goodnight handsome text. It has been 110 days apart and it does feel like eternity at times, but blogs like this help me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But on that front battle tips would be greatly appreciated! Hi Monica, thanks for sharing your story — I know the time you spend apart can feel like eternity, but New Years will be here before you know it! Congrats on meeting a fabulous guy — yes, the Australian work travel visa is what we did before I moved to the US too. Mike came here for a year and we lived together for the 12 months. Ive been friends with a girl for a couple years now. She was married so was i. Everything about us is the same. Tastes in politics, arts, education, history, tv, film…everything. We often find we both like and love the same obscure things. Its bizzare at times. These are things that couldnt be researched or guessed about each other either on facebook or google. Even our child hoods were similar. Put simply, it is meant to be. SO the story is im in Sydney and she is in Oregon USA. Middle of last year she finally left a very sexually abusive husband and she has a child.. Ive been separated 2 years an the divorce is now processing.. I was friends with her and the ex husband through their bad times and then when she left him and got divorced we started talking a lot…and for the last 8 months its been constant 12-14 hours a day texting. Up to 6-8 days video skyping or phone chatting. You know what its like…you share more with them in a short time than you have in a life time with anyone else. Sometimes you just know when something is meant to be. We have both been able to share things with each other and be how we have wanted to be and never was able to in the past. We openly talk about sex, marriage, babies…everything. Im also studying at UNE. Im doing a K-12 Teaching Degree. We have both said we would like to end up living together in Fiji where I want to teach, but that could be two years off whilst we work out her legal custody issues with her child. We jokes abit about marrying whilst im there, but I understand if that happened too quickly then Immigration can get very annoyed. So the plan was to maybe wait to the end of the 90 days, get married and apply for adjustment of status…cant think of all the visa numbers right now lol. Ive heard that can take a while and id be allowed to stay whilst It processes. Whats likely though is that I go for the three months, come home for a while, then go back.. I know that at the end we are going to end up together and have a family.. My only concern is that her being only 23.. She said if she is fine with it then I should just accept it. I am doing the right thing by me, but I hope im doing the right thing by her. I certainly do believe that long distance can work if people actually want it to.. Which it sounds like you both are. From having gone through the process of K1 Fiance visa and adjustment of status in the US myself, I would advise to really think through options and their implications before you make a decision. I know it can get expensive … been in that position as a student too! Wishing you both all the best … have an amazing trip to meet her! I am currently in a LDR, I am in America and my boyfriend is Tanzanian. I was hoping you would share your experience with me, as far as immigration. We are debating between a k1 and k3 visa… My email is Thank you SO much for sharing your story. This blog is amazing! Hi Megan, this is a great story. My husband and I have two children and we moved from the UK to Oz a couple of months back. The children and I have to return to the UK while my husband stays and works in Oz. Family have said that my husband and I need to be physically living together and to have some stability in our relationship…we have been married 12 years! Their comments have really stressed me out and have started to doubt whether the decision my husband and I are making is the indeed the right one. I really hope we can survive a long distance relationship for 12 months apart. Your story is an inspiration. Hi Meera Thanks for reaching out — first of all, congrats on 12 years of marriage. If you guys have been together for 12 years and your relationship is strong, you can withstand 12 months apart. A long distance relationship will work when the people involved want to make it work. So thank them for their opinion, but then throw it away. We were both lonely at the time and used an online chat room to talk to random people, we then came across one another, we were both the same age 13 and we talked for 2years after that via facebook. I then asked her a few days ago to which she said yes! This is great because we would actually get to meet. Hi Connor, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. We seem to have a lot of things in common, but I still have yet to sell her on the long-distance relationship. She thinks that only celebrities can make it work. I might print out your article and send it to her. We keep in contact via letters and Facebook and I send her flowers once a month with little messages I went online and found a good English florist. Hi Matthew, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. They get bored easily, and distracted, and move on. I loved reading your story. Thank you for posting! You should write a book! We both met in Hawaii where we went to the same university. I moved back to California to finish my undergraduate degree and my boyfriend is now living in Spain for the next year. Hi Nicole, thanks for stopping by! Hopefully can start writing soon! And plus, now you have an excuse for a vacation in Spain :D! You both are very lucky. Almost five years ago I met a person on a penpal website. He is from Scotland, I am from America. He has a large family that he is very close to and an elderly grandma with demitia. I would have never thought I would be in this situation. Hi Tracy, thanks for stopping by! It can always be tough trying to balance commitment to family with the rest of your life. I live in America and decided to try online dating and I went through many guys who in the end I could tell was not really interested in me and Then I saw a man from Austria who viewed my profile once and then again a few weeks later and so I decided to message him. And so far its been 2 and a half months and we have been talking every single day almost all day. And we have an amazing connection its crazy and he has sent me pics of his family and friends and himself and I have never met someone who I can just feel so comfortable with and who makes me so happy. I am planning on visiting him for 2 weeks in April and we are really excited and have plans for my trip and the problem I have is with my family and friends. They are all telling me that I can die and they are just assuming he is a bad guy and just speaking so negatively about him and I hate it. Because he is the sweetest guy ever and the first guy to make me happy ever and they say how a woman should not be visiting a man first. I understand they are worried but they need to understand that I would not spend that much money to visit a guy I am even the slightest hesistant about. I just wonder how you dealt with their negativity because I am still going but I dont want them to keep putting doubts in my head. Same thing could happen to me! We spent 3 days together then he went back to Australia. We talked and video called for hours every day. A week after he went back home, he asked me to fly out to stay with him! I was lucky that I could. We waited to say those words face to face…. I had a wonderful trip, so perfect, he was the perfect host, lover, friend. Not because of me…. He was studying for a degree online and wanted to finish it quickly. His mum said he could live with her. Meeting me he said, just made him do it sooner. He still lived 3. We saw each other every couple of weeks for a day other a night but every time we met it was like starting again. I met his brother who lived nearer me. He met my son. But gradually he went quiet. I sensed the move was too huge for him. I gave him space, We stopped talking every day. I asked him to leave. I defriended him from Facebook. That was 8 weeks ago. The moral of this story is… Carpe Diem. Take risks, you never know what could happen. Even though it didnt work out, I met a wonderful guy, saw a country I had longed to go to, and opened up my heart to love again after years alone. Nothing is a failed experience if it brought you happiness for a short while, and if there were positives which came as a result. I found another… Oh my God it was heaven on earth.. Will talk via WhatsApp for hours exchange pictures and lot more. She promised coming to Nigeria to see me, not after her birthday last week everything changed. Please I need your sincere advice on this cause am really really confuse. Hi Ifreke thanks for reaching out. If you would like to go and meet her, I suggest trying to talk to her first. Communicate and see if she would be willing to meet if you traveled there. Hopefully your someone special finds you soon! What a beautiful story. We video chat almost every night even with the 5 hour time difference and never seem to run out of things to talk about. And I hope you have a great time in your marriage and thank you for the hope. If you do meet, my biggest advice is not to put too much pressure on it. Trying to force something is what quickly ruins it. If the chemistry is there and you hit it off, you can then progress at a pace which is natural for you both. Or something casual and fun like bowling. I find that makes it even more awkward. She lives in Israel and I live in America. I plan on doing small term then going back in a little while. She plans on doing two years. As I said we are pretty young, so it really makes it harder for us and I feel all alone with her trying to accomplish this. I was planning on spending time with her on her second year in the military then going into the military. I would do anything to see her in person honestly.. Saying that out loud actually helps. You have to really believe it. Keeping a plan to spend time with her in her second year is good. Plans are important because they give you direction and something to look forward to. Perhaps you can slowly start having conversations with your parents about why they think Israel is dangerous, and start trying to convince them that it is in fact a safe place. You would have to figure out how best to approach that, but maybe even if you invited them to chat to her on video chat and they formed a bond or could at least put a face to the name. Sometimes if they hit it off this can help bridge the gap between their negative mindset. Wishing you both all the best. I met this great guy online and have been friends for the past 5 months. We just came forward with our feelings to start working our way to a relationship eventually. He is 26 in the Netherlands and I am 22 in America. With his full time job and me still in school its a bit difficult to find a time for us to meet and plan. Both of us have communicated well and its really exciting and terrifying for me at the same time to try a relationship out again. We are planning to meet this Christmas up until his birthday in early January, when we would call it official maybe. This is just something new and incredible different to be with someone who communicates well and makes me happy, and it is incredibly fresh and new still. I truly hope to make this work with him and see us somewhere together in the world. He is even helping me learn dutch! But just reading this article made me really excited and hopeful to see where me and him go. We met in January last year when she was on a short vacation to Singapore, we had feelings from then, but remained friends. Then December last year she visited me. Our connections grew deeper and we decided to start a relationship. Right from the beginning, our attitude towards the relationship has been — we hold onto each other because we have good feelings and connections. But we are both afraid the relationship may end because of reality. Nonetheless we still want to give this relationship a try. My family business is in a crucial transition phase succeed — becomes a large business; fail — die off and I will be anchored in Singapore for a long time. We communicate via text daily. I usually do more text because of her long working hours, and sometimes when I feel insecure I text her more than I should. We video call once a week. In terms of visits in person, as I said, we are just a 4-hour flight away. We try to meet when both countries have the same public holidays, or try to arrange business trips there. Whenever we meet in person, our passion rekindles and we resolve to eventually unite for real. But when we are apart, we start to feel insecure. And I need to work on my own insecurities as well. How can I guide this relationship forward? Hi TL, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. But it sounds like you both have a true passion for one another, so in terms of moving the relationship forward I think that maintaining your daily communication is the biggest key. And staying open and honest, and trying to address your insecurities. When you take trips to see each other, do you visit her, or does she come to Singapore? If she feels as though she could have support from people there, or could visualize what life would be like there, perhaps it would be a lot less scary. Hope that helps somewhat! You have an amazing story! An inspiring one actually! I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now. We were in the same university back in India and started dating 6 months before I had to leave to come back to France. My family stays in New Delhi and he lives in Mumbai. I have 10 days of spring vacation in Paris and he surprised me by booking tickets for me to come to Bombay. I am grateful to have someone like him in my life. Also, I think is very important not to overthink, if both sides are committed to making it work, things will be fine. I know we will be together no matter what or where. Thank you for telling your story, it is really reassuring. Xo Hi Aline, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. And the expense too obviously. What do u think i should do? And what do u think i should do to make our convos less boring? How far away are your cities from each other? Perhaps you could try and plan a visit to see her? Obviously you want to salvage the relationship, but ultimately actions speak louder than words. She could be in love with the idea of making the long distance relationship work but not be too keen on the actual reality of it. I think your first step is to try and have the straight up conversation and see how that goes. And it gives you that more personal connection than just voice. She could do the same. You could play games, like online games against each other and that might get the conversation flowing naturally, especially if you guys have a competative nature. We love each other alot that sometimes we find ourselves crying on phone.. The first step is to actually meet, because even though your connection on the phone is incredible, the physical aspect of a relationship is important too. So when you do meet, it might be as incredible as you imagined and you can plan the next steps for marriage and immigration, or you might decide, ok the physical relationship is more of just a friend. Or if Africa is too far away perhaps you could try and meet somewhere in the middle where it is possible for you to travel without too much issue with visas. I read your blog post because I am American and my partner is Australian! We met last year July while I was on a one year sponsored work visa. I decided to get on a work and holiday visa this year to stay longer. I would prefer not to do long distance, but it looks inevitable. This girl is the woman of my dreams and I am going to be with her for the rest of my life, I know it. So my question is, did you guys find it easier to immigrate to Australia or America. Is there similar rules for the American partner visa? Hi Cassidy, thanks for reaching out — and congrats on finding an incredible partner! We first moved to America where I immigrated based on a K1 Fiance Visa, got married, and then applied for a change of status and got my green card. Our reasons for immigrating to America in the first place were that he owned a home there, and we thought it would be worthwhile spending some time on that side of the world before settling in Australia for good. But shoot me an email and I can send you our experience with the American side of things. This story really moved me. I met the love of my life in Miami Beach in March and we were together for 10 hours a day for about 7 days. I am from USA and her Brazil. We never fought or argued and decided to try to keep things going, but we were only texting and occasionally FaceTiming. Today we FaceTimed for about a half hour with her just going through her routine of a meal before bed, getting things ready for the next day and brushing our teeth and turning the lights off together for bed. We say good morning everyday through messenger. We would each take messages the wrong way. I agree and felt so better, neither of our friends support this and think we are crazy. Because of my past relationships, I have trust issues. Hi Marc, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. And congrats on finding an amazing girl! Or Facebook Messenger actually has the capability to video or phone call now for free too. So definitely focus on actual phone conversations as much as you can. Sorry to hear about your past relationships. Posititivity and communication is key. Wishing you both all the best! The embassy denied his extended trip here and said they thought he would overstay and live here illegally. It certainly put a large wrench in our plan. We ended up breaking up because of the indecision, but never truly got over one another. This was almost a year ago. Hi Elizabeth, thanks for sharing your story. When it comes down it, it sounds like the choice is to either take the plunge and move to England, or accept to move on. And absolute worst case scenario, you hate it, but come home. If it helps with your mindset, perhaps commit to visiting England for 12 months. People take gap years and extended vacations all the time. All the best … take the jump! That is such a great love story. I also have married a man that I adore who is from Algeria, North Africa. Well, I knew that he would be there at the airport to meet me, and he was there. Had other people just act really suspicious because he is from another country. Because he was American. People will try to tell you who they think you should be with based on their own selfish reasons. Finally, I went to meet him in Tunisia after talking online for almost 2 years. So, I knew him pretty well by that timr. And then we decided to get married there. Then came back to America to wait for him to come here. It can, and does happen. It all levels out. And sometimes we need to just take the chance to be with the one we really love. Hi Cara, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story, congratulations on making it work for you! Massive congrats on finding your happiness and making it work. I was going to book my flight to go see him for the first time after 3 months but after this I kind of want to do it SOONER. Any Advice for me? Are you in a position to make a big leap of faith and visit France for a couple of months? Spend time with him and see if you can come up with a plan on how to make the rest of your life work? My advice will always be that if you both love each other and can stay mutually committed to the relationship, you can make it through and should definitely give it a go. But it will always be very difficult being apart for such long periods of time. If you feel as though this is a moment in your relationship where it might be make or break, and you are in a position to visit France, I would say take the leap and believe in love. Wishing you all the best to make it through. We re-connected 10 years later and at first it was amazing, he was full of love and regret for not keeping in touch and said I was never far from his mind, we talked and video called daily, he asked what it would take for me to move over and we started planning a future, we planned for him to come over and for me to go to him and to meet in London, so I flew over first at his repeated request and spent a few days with him, he was so cold and distant almost immediately and I tried to talk while we were there, but got nowhere, I questioned it when I got home, but he flatly ignored my concerns and after 2 months of slowly dwindling contact — he has now blocked me from his phone and email etc. I was heart broken and confused, now I just feel pretty numb to it and just disappointed by his behaviour. Sounds like the problem is with the guy. Your story was amazing. But I should move to the US for my PhD study program. It will begin about next month and so we will go to a long distance relationship. Both of us are students. Fortunately, she has a plan to continue her studies in the US, But it takes at least a year to meet again. Now I am in a stressful situation. And how can I handle it? I need some help. Hi Sina, thanks for reaching out. Make sure you keep the lines of communication open as this is the most important thing — video chat, Skype, phone calls — make a routine which works for both your locations and try to stick to that as much as possible. Your post has so inspiring and given me so much hope! Thank you for writing it! I have just met a lovely guy while on my student exchange here in Australia, however just two weeks before I am about to just back to my country South Africa. We have talked so much about how we want to settle down and be with each other but now that I am heading back home, I am completely crushed and he is shocked too! Should I have a talk with him whether he would like to do long distance or not? After Mike and I met it was probably 2 months between separating and making it official. We had been talking everyday on the phone so figured why not make it official. If you wanted to go that route, maybe you could suggest keeping in touch and seeing if it leads into an LDR after you get to know each other better. Wishing you the best! We met playing, of all things, an online game that both our kids were playing at the same time. We were both online to make sure they were safe in game. We met and chatted in the game, and he was lovely and friendly. We decided to Skype but only via message as we were both very shy. Then one night he accidentally phoned me on Skype and I heard his voice for the first time. We then shared photos and we saw each other for the first time. Dario told me that he was going to Italy for Christmas so I decided that I needed to see if this crazy thing was real. I booked a flight and we met in Rome. I had a massive panic attack an hour before I landed Oh good Lord…what am I doing!!!! Our magical time in Italy proved that what we had was real and we decided not to let the distance stop us. Dario is coming to Australia in October for five months Scottish man may die in Australian summer heat lmao. Love to you and Mike xx Hi Catherine, thanks for sharing your story — congrats on having met the love of your life! I really feel that the long distance forces a more intimate emotional connection, because speaking over the phone is your only avenue of contact, so you get to know each other on a deeper level, faster than perhaps a traditional relationship progresses. I hope you have an incredible time when he comes to visit in October. He is from Tunisia and I am american. He speaks of love and marriage everyday but says he will wait until I am ready. I completely agree that we are really getting to know each other one day at a time. He has introduced me to his family except for his parents who I will meet when I go me next summer. It is good to read a success story as I have only received negativity for this. His age plays a factor as well because he is younger but I feel that with this just like a conventional relationship if you both work at it it could work well. Congratulations on making it work. Wishing you both all the best! I met my fiancee nearly two years ago on a Christian prayer site online. We hit it off straight away and talked non stop every chance we got. But after nearly two years she is finally going to be moving to Australia and we are getting married. She has a job here and I am amazed how God has supplied everything beyond what we believed. Nearly 16000km apart and our only communication has been Skype whatsapp and calls and it has worked because we know we are meant to be together and have put the effort in to make it work. Thankyou so much for this post, my fiancee actually came across this lol. We have found the one our soul was looking for. Congratulations on an amazing story, very glad to have found so many in the same or have been in the same situation. Daniel Hi Daniel, thankyou for reaching out and sharing your incredible story. A Huge congratulations to you and your fiance!! Congrats on having found each other, and for making it work and sticking with it throughout the difficult points. Wishing you both all the best. This is a crazy love story that nearly everyone pities. Maybe you will be different. My boyfriend was a foreign exchange student in my school… High school. Yes, we are both very young and maybe we are just dreaming for wanting this to work. He lives in Brazil and I live in America, we both love each other very much but we are having a terribly difficult time making this work. We may see each other once or twice a year. Hi Emily, thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. Yes, it sounds like the timing for you guys really sucks, because you are both so young, and have a lot of life experiences ahead of you, your journey through college etc.
